Bisola Aiyeola, a renowned Nollywood actress and media personality, continues to share her experiences and challenges as a single mother.
In her recent appearance on Mums Next Door, the mother of one discussed certain aspects of motherhood that she finds challenging and explained why.
Bisola Aiyeola, who revealed on the same show that her daughter will not have a phone until she turns 16, admitted that while she enjoys motherhood, there are three key elements that make it difficult for her.
Bisola Aiyeola elaborated on the overwhelming nature, physical changes, and sacrifices that come with raising children. In her words:
“Have I always enjoyed motherhood? No. I have not always enjoyed motherhood. There are moments I enjoy, so it’s a yes and no answer. But it is overwhelming. Managing her, work, her own emotions, and there are certain conversations that we have when I look at her and I’m like, honey, why do you have to please everybody? You can’t. You should stand your ground. Say no. It’s okay to say no.
There was a time when there was a competition in her school and her team didn’t get picked, and she was really upset.
She is so passionate about school work that if any of her teammates or classmates are not on the same page with her, she starts crying, and some people are like, ‘I don’t want to work with Laila, Laila’s own is too much.’ I had to tell her, honey, look, you need to be able to strike a balance. So managing those emotions can be overwhelming.”
On physical changes and how they have affected her, Bisola continued:
“I was a lot younger when I had Laila, I’m much older now. Life has changed. My body is not the same. I have issues with my back, and those issues started after I had Laila. It was from my pregnancy and childbirth that I started having those issues.”
Speaking about how she’s had to make sacrifices and put some of her own desires on hold because of her 15-year-old daughter, Bisola said:
“I have put several desires on hold because of motherhood, some I will not go into. But mostly, sometimes work. There are certain roles that have come my way that I’m like, if I do this, my daughter’s friends follow me. She literally sends me emails that her friends have sent to her of screenshots of some things that I’ve posted on social media. She’s pretty tough, but I still don’t want to put her in any situation that would make her feel like, why did my mum do this? So I have to consider her emotions.”
